Date: Sat,
To: dlg282@sbcglobal.net
From: Judy Jones <SNAPSteubenville@hughes.net>
Subject: Requesting your help..
Dear Fr. David Gaydosik,
My name is Judy Block Jones. I
am the
Just a bit of information about
who I am. I grew up in Woodsfield, and went to St Sylvester's School, the old
one. My dad was the veterinarian of
The reason that I am writing to you is: I am concerned for the many victims of
Fr Brown. He sexually abused at least 4 of my relatives, plus I have had a
couple of victims contact me for support and help since the
Fr. Gaydosik, I am asking if I can buy an ad to be published in the St Sylvester's Church bulletin. I would like to know what the cost would be, and how often I could publish this in the bulletin. I would like to have the ad say:
“There is support, compassion and understanding for anyone who was sexually abused by Fr. Brown and/or Paul Ditto. SNAP (Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests) is a confidential safe group of survivors and supporters who are committed to helping victims heal. You are not alone, Fr. Brown is known to have abused many young boys. You can contact:
Judy Jones.................... 636-433-2511
... email: SNAPSteubenville@hughes.net
Helen Schoeppner.........740-568-8213
http://www.snapnetwork.org/”
Please let me know about this request for information. If you have any questions you can email me, or phone me: 636-433-2511
I await you reply, and thank you for caring,
Judy Block Jones
17170 Deer Mountain Rd.
Marthasville, Mo 63357
http://www.snapnetwork.org/snap_regional_offices/snap_local_mid_us.htm#oh
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Hi,
In case you did not receive my email.. it is posted below.
I am wondering if you could give me an answer to this?.. or if there is someone
else who handles the Sunday bulletin, could you direct me to them? I am
still interested in buying an ad in your church bulletin.
Thank you,
Judy
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To: dlg282@sbcglobal.net
From: Judy Jones <SNAPSteubenville@hughes.net>
Subject: Please give me an answer...
Cc:
Fr. Gaydosik,
I phoned your office the other day, and spoke with a very nice woman, Mary
Wallace. I told her about emailing you, and asked her about putting an ad in
the church bulletin. She assured me that she would let you know that I called,
and that she would have you contact me.
I can only imagine that you are very busy, but I would very much like to place
an ad in the St Sylvester's church bulletin, to let those others who were
abused by Fr Brown, that SNAP is here, and that there are other victims with
whom they can connect with. It is so helpful and healing for survivors if they
can communicate with those others who were abused. They do not have to suffer
alone in silence and shame. There is help.
Please, I await your reply.. via email or phone. My number
is
636-433-2511 .
Thank you,
Judy
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Date:
From: david gaydosik <dlg282@sbcglobal.net>
Subject: reply
To: SNAPSteubenville@hughes.net
Mrs. Jones:
I have discussed this matter with the pastoral council ... they feel this would
NOT be an ad they would want in their church bulletin.
Fr. Gaydosik
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Dear Bishop R. Daniel Conlon and All Steubenville Diocese Priests:
We are supporters, family members and survivors of sex abuse by clergy within
the Steubenville Diocese.
We are writing this letter to you, Bishop R. Daniel Conlon, asking you to
invite survivors and their family members to speak at your parishes.
We are also writing this letter to every priest who works in the
There are benefits to survivors in this request. Speaking and telling our
stories is extremely healing for survivors of sexual abuse and for their family
members. Some of the worst harm for victims has been the secrets, rejection,
and the attitude that this should not be talked about.
By speaking and telling our stories of abuse and how it has affected our lives,
you and your parishioners will be more able to accept and understand who we
are, what we are about, and how to handle victims of sexual abuse and those
family and friends affected by their abuse.
In an address to Irish bishops, Pope Benedict said "The wounds caused by
such acts run deep, and it is an urgent task to rebuild confidence and trust
where these have been damaged. In your continuing efforts to deal effectively with
this problem, it is important to establish the truth of what happened in the
past, to take whatever steps are necessary to prevent it from occurring again,
to ensure that the principles of justice are fully respected and, above all, to
bring healing to the victims and to all those affected by these egregious
crimes." We urge you to listen to Pope Benedict and take action towards
healing these wounds.
We also believe we can help. We have been successful in stopping this
horrible crime which is so harmful to so many innocent kids and vulnerable
adults. We can show you how to protect our children of today. We
can tell you how to be alert to the manipulating behaviors of predators and we
can let you know about the grooming process that most all sexual predators use
to get through the natural defenses of their victims. We have a good idea about
how to protect kids, after all we were kids who were victims of these
predators.
Bishop Conlon and Priests of
the
Please, we ask that you
respond.
Thank you,
Judy Jones, SNAP
Director Southeastern Ohio ( Relative of many Steubenville Diocese
Survivors)
636-433-2511
Helen Schoeppner, SNAP Director
Steubenville
740-568-8213
Teresa Ball, Steubenville Diocese Survivor
Daniel Frondorf, Cincinnati, OH, (Survivor of Sex Abuse committed by
Lawrence Strittmatter, Archdiocese of Cincinnati)
Karen Jones, St Louis, Niece of Steubenville Diocese
Survivor,
314-621-4744
Tom Byrne, VOTF Northeast Ohio
William Litzler, Cleveland Ohio SNAP
Supporter
440-333-5809
Marigold Marsh, Cambridge, Supporter of Steubenville Survivors
Dr. Steven D. Spaner, Supporter of Steubenville Diocese's
Survivors,
314-994-3534
Karen Nagy, Steubenville, Supporter of Steubenville Diocese Survivors
Christy Miller, SNAP Co-Director
Cincinnati,
513-383-2198 (Survivor of child sex
abuse by Thomas Brunner, Archdiocese of Cincinnati)
Konrad Kircher, Supporter of Steubenville Diocese Survivors
Claudia Yvonne Vercellotti, SNAP Co-Director, Toledo Ohio
John Wirtz, Youngstown, Supporter of Steubenville Survivors
Pat and Lou Serrano, New Jersey, Outreach to Parents of Victims
Lois M. Lutes, Indiana, sister of Survivor
Betty Glynn, Phoenix, AZ (relative of many Steubenville Survivors)
Beth Ann Rocker, Israel, Steubenville Diocese Survivor
Michael J. Gorman, husband of
Steubenville Diocese Survivor
Jim Schoeppner, Sr., Marietta, Related to Steubenville Diocese Survivor
Stanley & Bea Nilsson, Relative of Steubenville Survivors, 4629
Cosmos Hill Rd., Cortland, New York 13045
Carol Zamonski, Columbus, Steubenville Diocese Survivor
Barb Dorris, SNAP Outreach
Director,
314-862-7688
From: "Seth Wymer"
<swymer@diosteub.org>
To: Judy Jones <snapsteubenville@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: letter to Bishop Conlon & All Steubenville Priests
Dear Miss Jones,
Thank you for your generous offer, however, since
there have been no abuse victims in this parish I see your request
superfluous. Perhaps a better way of going about your mission is to meet
with those involved one-on-one rather than using the pulpit as a rallying cry
pushing your own agenda.
In Omnibus Glorificetur Deus,
Father Seth T. Wymer
c/o St. Mary's Church
1-740-373-3643
Reply from Judy Jones
To: <swymer@diosteub.org>
From: Judy Jones <SNAPSteubenville@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: letter to Bishop Conlon & All Steubenville Priests
Dear Father Wymer,
Thank you for your response to
our letter.
I'm not sure exactly what you are referring to when you say:
"Perhaps a better way of going about your mission is to meet with those
involved one-on-one rather than using the pulpit as a rallying cry pushing your
own agenda"
I have met with many, many survivors of sex abuse by clergy. I do not
understand what you mean by using the pulpit as a rallying cry to push
my own agenda?
My concern is for the safety of kids. I am hoping that is also your concern,
and if you're operating in a transparent manner, why wouldn't you want victims
of sex crimes committed by priests to speak at the church? What harm could come
from that?
Please explain, I would like to understand you, and I feel there is a wide gap
between us. Can we please try to close that gap, just a little?
Thank you, Judy Jones
Reply to Fr Seth Wymer from ---------- Original
Message ----------------------------------
From: Karen Nagy
Date: Mon, 2 Jun 2008 14:54:14 -0700 (PDT)
Father Wymer,
I was somewhat concerned by the tone of your response to Judy Jones' email
asking if the Survivors Network for those Abused by Priests could speak at your
parish. Exactly what "agenda" do you think she is
"pushing"? SNAP and its members are trying to affect healing for
victims of clergy sex abuse, which would be what we all want, I would hope. I
am certain that would be your "agenda" as well. If this is the case,
we are all "on the same side", so to speak, and as the Holy Father has
said, we all have a responsibility to help bind up wounds caused by our
Church's representatives. I am sorry to have to inform you that simply because
no one has come forward does not mean that there are no victims of clergy sex
abuse in your parish. Denial is a luxury that none of us can afford. I implore
you to reconsider SNAP's request; if you do not feel that a representative
speaking is appropriate, what would you suggest? I welcome any suggestions you
may have.
Sincerely, Karen J. Nagy
Response from Fr Seth Wymer,
Date: Mon, 2 Jun 2008 19:00:44
-0700 (PDT)
From: Karen Nagy <tazashetan@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: Your response
To: swymer@diosteub.org
If the Evil One is alive and well in any organization, I don't believe that
organization is SNAP; these victims were exploited by representatives of
our Church, not the other way around. They were betrayed in a most
egregious fashion, by those who represented Christ to them. I also wonder where
the next generation of the faithful will come from, but because of actions such
as yours. Your words to me cannot be the gospel in action, and I cannot
believe our Lord would want you to treat any of His children in such a way,
especially those of His children who have already been so grievously
injured. Look to the millstone around your neck, my friend. I
question whose voice you listen to.
Karen Nagy
Reply to Fr Seth Wymer from supporter
of
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From: Karen Jones <karen@marblesyoga.com >
Date: Thu,
Dear Father Seth T. Wymer,
I am responding to your suggestion that you made to our request to speak
to your parishioners. I believe that one on one meetings can be
helpful in some circumstances, but not this one. One on one meetings
would be treating the problem with one of the causes that have created this
problem, that which is secrecy.
Trust needs to be reestablished.
I respect your belief that there have been no abuse victims at
your parish. This is the reason for our request. You and
others (including me at one time) may not believe that abuse is happening and
others who have been abused may be too scared to say anything. Hearing a
person speak in a vulnerable real situation is helpful to the person
speaking and to others who believe they are the only one to be abused.
Speaking to your parishioners would take such respectable courage that we
should all be so inspired to be this courageous.
I ask you to reconsider your decision.
sun salutations,
Karen Jones
Marbles Yoga Studio
http://www.marblesyoga.com
From: "Seth Wymer" <swymer@diosteub.org>
Date:
To: Karen Jones <karen@marblesyoga.com >
Subject: Re: letter to Bishop Conlon & All Steubenville Priests
Reply-To: <swymer@diosteub.org >
You will not speak in my parish, and if you continue asking it will border on
harassment. End of discussion!
In Omnibus Glorificetur Deus,
Father Seth T. Wymer
c/o St. Mary's Church
506 Fourth St.
Date: Wed, 25 Jun 2008 13:26:41
-0400
From: "John Mccoy" <jmccoy@diosteub.org>
Reply-To: <jmccoy@diosteub.org>
To: Judy Jones <snapsteubenville@gmail.com>
CC: <jmccoy@diosteub.org>
Subject: Re: letter to Bishop Conlon & All Steubenville Priests
Judy,
I prinited off a copy of your letter and provided each of my two parish
councils and CWC groups with the request that if they thought there was anyone
who might be interested in your program at either parish they could contact you
or me to set a time and date. Nobody has gotten back to me from any of
the four committees so I do not think there is an interest in either of my
parishes for your presentation at this time. If need or concern arises I
will contact you. Thank you for all of your dedicated work and prayers.
God Bless,
Fr. Jack
---------- Original Message ----------------------------------
From: Judy Jones <snapsteubenville@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, 02 Jun 2008 09:30:43 -0500
>Dear Rev. John McCoy,
>
>Dear Bishop R. Daniel Conlon and All Steubenville Diocese Priests:
>
>We are supporters, family members and survivors of sex abuse by clergy
within the Steubenville Diocese.
>
>We are writing this letter to you, Bishop R. Daniel Conlon, asking you to
invite survivors and their family members to speak at your parishes.
>
>We are also writing this letter to every priest who works in the
To: <jmccoy@diosteub.org>
From: Judy Jones <SNAPSteubenville@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: letter to Bishop Conlon & All Steubenville Priests
Thank you so much, this sounds good. I just knew there had to be at
least one good priest in this diocese.... and I know there are many
caring people. After all, I grew up in that area.....
Please stay in touch, We look forward to meeting with any and all.
Judy
636-433-2511
Dear Judy,
You are welcome. I will follow up with the various groups in the fall and
go from there.
God Bless,
Fr. Jack
Follow-up reply to Fr John McCoy from Judy Jones
To: <jmccoy@diosteub.org>
From: Judy Jones <SNAPSteubenville@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: letter to Bishop Conlon & All Steubenville Priests
Cc: Helen Schoeppner
Dear Fr Jack:
It is obvious that we, you and I, have some momentum and should take the time
to act now in preparation for a supportive and meaningful experience for
survivors and faithful parishioners. In that spirit, it occurs to me that
we may be able to craft a message of introduction and a letter of understanding
regarding survivors' and supporters of survivors' interest in speaking with
compassionate and eager to learn members of your parish. I will be in the
area to hold a Monday night survivors support meeting in Cambridge, OH on
7/14/2008 (We hold a monthly survivors support meeting on the second Monday of
each month). If you were available on Tuesday,
Sincerely,
Judy Jones, SNAP Director Southeastern Ohio
copy to: Helen Schoeppner, SNAP Director
Steubenville
740-568-8213
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Follow-up reply from Fr John McCoy to Judy Jones
From: "John Mccoy"
<jmccoy@diosteub.org>
To: Judy Jones <snapsteubenville@gmail.com>
Subject: Re: letter to Bishop Conlon & All Steubenville Priests
Dear Judy,
I have explained in past communications that neither of my parishes have any
interest in meeting with you or members of your organization at this
time. Being pushy is not the appropriate behavior to have if you expect
me or my parishioners to believe that you are sincere about your mission. If
you were really honest and up right about your mission you would not be so
pushy, but would be respectful of my parishioners
decision not to have your organization visit at this time. Now I
understand why nobody communicates with you, you are nor respectful of peoples
truthful desires, but only of pushing your own agenda. If you wish to
succeede, you need to learn to respect people. Disrespect is an abuse that
you are showing in being pushy, this also calls to question what your true
motivations are. I hope you will pray that the Lord may show you how to be
resepectful of others so that the work he has called you to do can be fruitful
instead of allienating. As I have promise before I will continue to pray for
your organization, but I am requesting that you stop your e-mails. When
my parishioners are open to hearing from you. then and only then will I or they
contact you. Plese remove me from your e-mailing list immediately.
God Bless,
Fr. Jack
---------- Original Message ----------------------------------
From: Judy Jones <snapsteubenville@gmail.com>
Date:
>Dear Fr Jack:
>
>It is obvious that we, you and I, have some momentum and should take
>the time to act now in preparation for a supportive and meaningful
...snip...
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